Whoa. Found out today that a friend of mine might be HIV+. Upon discussion with this person and given a couple of past discussions about people who thought they were practicing safe sex... well, your sex might not be as safe as you think it is.
First off... The adage goes 'innocent until proven guilty', however, that is not how you should think about HIV. If you aren't coming at it with the perspective of 'HIV+ until proven otherwise', then you are at risk. ANY person that could be convinced to have sex without a condom BY DEFINITION is NEVER a safe person to have sex without a condom. If they could be convinced, then they probably have been convinced in the past. This person is a danger to your health, as well as their own. You either have sex with a condom EVERY SINGLE TIME WITH EVERY SINGLE PERSON, until you have been in a stable, monogomous relationship for at least 6 months, and then are BOTH tested for /everything/ first. But that isn't enough. You have to make it clear, and I mean PERFECTLY CLEAR to your partner that if they have sex with another person that they had better inform you BEFORE they have sex with you again. If you don't 100% believe this person will do that, then don't go without condoms. Don't kid yourself that your partner won't cheat, because most people who have partners who cheated didn't think their partner would. I mean, would you even go out with someone who you /thought/ would cheat on you? So it doesn't make sense to try to convince them not to. But it does make sense to convince them that they had better tell you before they put your life in jeopardy!
Secondly, and this part gets a bit graphic, so be forewarned.... If you take the first one into account, and assume that everyone is HIV until proven otherwise... would you want someone you knew to be HIV+ to spray blood on you? Nope, probably not. And yet, many people think that someone cumming on them is /safe/. It isn't. Cum is a biohazard, just as much as blood is. So is vaginal secretion. No one else's bodily fluids are 'safe' if they are on you. One little scratch, or acne wound, and tag, you could be infected.
Lastly, whenever inserting fingers into any orifice, it isn't safe without gloves on. I know you might be thinking that is overkill, but it isn't. The nailbeds around your fingernails easily get hangnails, or separate from the nail, and that can be an easy opening for HIV. Also, the nail can open a tear in the other persons flesh as well.
When talking to some of the people that I have known that became infected, all of them practiced what they thought was safe sex. They used condoms for intercourse. None of them were IV drug users. And yet how did they become infected? All of them did other UNSAFE sex practices, such as being cum upon, or using unprotected fingers.
You really must assume that every person is HIV+ until several safety measures have been put into place, such as time/commitment/testing.
You either start out always wearing a condom, until you truly find a lasting and safe relationship, or you end up HIV+ and will end up having no choice but to wear one for the rest of your life. It shouldn't be a hard choice. Just think it through BEFORE you have sex each time.
My hope goes out to you. -Isabelle
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